cremation in Clifton Park, NY

Etiquette Tips for Memorial Service After Cremation

After a cremation in Clifton Park, NY for a friend or co-worker, you may be invited to attend a memorial service. The great thing about a memorial service is that it tends to be more relaxed and informal than a typical funeral and cremation service. It will take place after the body disposition, which will give you more time to process your thoughts and come to term with things. But if you do attend, it pays to understand some basic rules of conduct at such events.  

So that you know what to expect in terms of etiquette, here are some tips to keep in mind.  

Would Your Presence Detract? 

This is probably the top consideration. Before you even think about what you should wear to a memorial service, you should consider whether or not you should even be there. Were you at odds with the deceased before they died? Are you on bad terms with immediate members of their family? If you believe that your presence would be unwanted, then you should weigh whether you should go anyway or if you should pass and maybe send condolences instead.  

Watch What You Wear 

You won’t have to be as concerned about dressing up the way you would if you were attending a funeral service at a funeral home, but that doesn’t mean that what you wear isn’t important. And, no, you don’t have to wear all black. Think of it this way. If you believe that your outfit at the memorial would be suitable if you were going to a job interview, then it’s likely fine for the memorial service. The focus at the memorial service should be on the deceased and their family. This means that you don’t want to detract from the true focus of the memorial service.  

Get There On Time 

Are you one of those people who arrives late for just about everything? Are you usually on time but dislike when others are never on time for scheduled meetings or events? However you slice it or dice it, you should strive to get to the memorial service on time. Plan to arrive at least 10 to 15 minutes beforehand. Getting there early or on time will save you the embarrassment of making a disturbance if the memorial service is already in progress.  


Do you have children who you’d like to bring with you? In terms of whether you should bring them or not, it should be left up to your discretion. Did they know the deceased? Do they want to attend? Are they old enough to sit still and to be relatively quiet through what might be a long event? Depending on the answers to these questions, you may or may not wish to bring your children to the event. If your children are particularly young and you want to bring them, you might opt to sit near the back so that it’s easy to make a quick exit if they need a break.  

These are just some of the things to keep in mind if you plan to attend a memorial service following a Clifton Park, NY cremation. For the best in funeral and cremation services, look no further than McLoughlin & Mason Funeral Home. We strive to help grieving families plan body dispositions at a time when they’re still reeling from news of a death close to home. We can be reached at (518) 235-1722 for a free consultation with one of our professional and compassionate staff members. We can also be reached at our office at 8 109th St Troy, NY 12182.