After a cremation in Waterford, NY, you may struggle with knowing exactly what to say to one of the grieving family members. There are certainly a lot of things you can say to bring comfort and to show empathy, but there are things that simply ought not be said. Remember that words can cause hurt even if there was never any ill will intended. So that your words don’t cause undue pain, here is an example of things that you should not say to someone coping with a loss.
- It’s What God Wanted
While this is the sort of comment that one might say with the intention of comforting someone, these words are actually quite insensitive. Remember that the immediate aftermath of a death close to home will be a time of grief and uncertainty for the family of the deceased. What they need is compassion and empathy, and saying something that might come across as dismissive of their sorrow won’t help. Time does heal all wounds, as the saying goes. And in time, the grieving person you want to comfort may very well become philosophical about the loss. What you don’t want to do, however, is try to hurry the grieving process along.
- Heaven Needed Another Angel
The problem behind this statement is that it is dismissive of how the grieving person feels. While it might seem like a good idea to tell the person that the deceased was called to some higher purpose, the reality is that it ignores the fact that the deceased was needed here and now with relatives who loved them. You also need to be mindful of the fact that not everyone has religious leanings. So you should be wary about assuming that the mourner has faith in a deity. It’s possible that any mention of religion during the mourning process will be taken as an insult.
- I Know What You’re Going Through
This has to be one of the most insensitive things you could say to someone who is coping with a loss in their family. If you’ve recently had a death in your family, you will definitely be able to empathize with someone who is grieving the death of a loved one. But this in no way will give you the ability to know precisely what someone else is going through. It’s best to let the person know that you empathize, that they’re in your thoughts and that you’re there for them. They will find it easier to talk to you when they realize that you’ve gone through something similar.
- She’s in a Better Place
The intention behind such words may be noble, but they can also be seen as rude. The grieving family will be mourning a loss, and part of the reason for the grief will be that the deceased is not with them. So telling the mourning person that their loved one is in a better place is dismissive of the pain felt by the family left behind.
When trying to bring comfort to someone grieving a loss, don’t inadvertently hurt them with your words. There are some popular words of condolences that are not really all that comforting. Be wary of them so that your words can encourage and uplift the discouraged and downcast. If you need some tips on what to say or you wish to plan a Waterford, NY cremation, get in touch with us at McLoughlin & Mason Funeral Home. You can reach us at (518) 235-1722 or visit us at 8 109th St Troy, NY 12182.